A Wife

By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for some time she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world. “They are your garments and you are their garments.” (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, “And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions of your own nature …” (Surah Al Nahl 16:72)

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

Narrated by Abu Masud Al Ansari: The Prophet (salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam) said, “When a Muslim spends something on his family intending to receive Allah’s reward, it is regarded as Sadaqa for him.”  [Sahih Al-Bukhari: Book 7 Volume 64 Hadith 263 ]

Narrated by Abu Hurayrah: Allah’s Messenger (salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallaam) said: ‘Of the Dinar you spend as a contribution in Allah’s path, or to set free a slave, or as a Sadaqah given to a needy, or to support your family, the one yielding the greatest reward is that which you spent on your family.’ [Sahih Muslim:  Book 5 Hadith 2181]

It’s Narrated from Abu Hurayrah that The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays, and awakens his wife; if she refuses, he should sprinkles water on her face. May Allah have mercy on a woman who gets up at night and prays, and awakens her husband; if he refuses, she would sprinkles water on his face. [Dawud: Book 5 Hadith 1303]

Narrated from Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said,“The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women.” [Sunan At-Tirmidhi, Book 10, Number 1162, Grade: Hasan Sahih]

Narrated by Aisha; Abdullah ibn Abbas: Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “The best of you is he who is best to his ‘ahlihah’ (wives, family, etc.); and I am the best among you to my ‘ahli’ (wives, family, etc.)” [Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252]




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